Not Unredeemed

… living the beautiful tension between what is, and what will be …

When Dreams Die


Tonight my heart is breaking for several friends whose dreams are dying. This blog is for them. In hearing about how the Lord is closing doors on their dreams – some of them good dreams – I began to think back to what God has shown me through some of the most intense times of dying dreams. The number one thing I want you to know is that there is life after your dreams. There is hope, and life abundant and to the full. Not just a life of existence.

For at the end of our dreams is the beginning of His. I am living proof of that and of God’s grace. Out of the death of one of my biggest dreams came this blog. It also birthed a passion in me to help people find their identity in Christ which led too the most fulfilling ministry I’m apart of. I have the honor of meeting with a large number of women and girls every week in a one on one discipleship and mentoring. I live for these meetings and they all came out of one of my dreams dying.

There is an old Selah song that says “it may not be fulfilled, it may not be restored, but when anything that is shattered and laid before the Lord, it will not be unredeemed.” The Lord has faithfully redeemed my dreams. Sometimes by fulfilling them in different ways, sometimes by changing and refining them, other times but simply giving me new ones – His dreams for me.

If God can do that for me, an ordinary, normal girl, He can and will do that for you if you give Him the shattered pieces. At the end of you is the beginning of Him. At the end of you is a crossroads. One road leads to bitterness and death, one road leads to a rebuilding and a hope. God doesn’t waste anything if we let Him work. So I beg you – ask Him for His dreams for you! Ask Him to redefine and remake your dead dreams. Like Ezekiel you stand with Him looking for the dry dead bones of your dreams and He says to you “ Son of man (or daughter!) do you believe these bones can live?” Ezekiel replies – “only you know Lord!” Only He knows! And they only way you will know is if you stick with Him to find out. 

I remember one night laying on my bed weeping, not evening knowing if I could trust the Lord any more after He removed a good God given dream from my life and I begged Him to give me His dreams. And He did. That night was a turning point for me as He began to lead me on a path that I never imagined – but it was BETTER than I imagined.

When you can’t trust God with even your dead dreams, trust His character, when you can’t trust specifics. He is faithful – but the only way we can know He is faithful is to step out in faith. If you’ve lost the dream – then you have nothing more to loose. Don’t wait. Step out. Ask Him for His dreams for you. It’s not an easy process but you will rebuild and you will be whole again.

Can the Lord take away even a good dream? One we have already surrendered to Him? Yes. If we are surrendered to Him it isn’t ours. I’m currently learning this is the next level of surrender with the Lord. He even asks for the good things. The good dreams. Not because He is cruel, but because He loves us enough to refine them and purify them and us in the process. He is more concerned with who we are than what we do. And in His love will remove or delay a dream if it hinders us from Him. Sometimes though the death of a dream isn’t about us – it’s what God is working in the bigger picture. 

Paul had a lot of dreams – a lot of good dreams and he laid them down for the sake of the cross. I’m sure he could have argued with God about where to serve Him best and how his life by everyone’s standards was right on tract, yet this is what Paul says to all of His accomplishments and dreams:

 But whatever was to my profit I now consider loss for the sake of Christ. What is more, I consider everything a loss compared to the surpassing greatness of knowing Christ Jesus my Lord, for whose sake I have lost all things. I consider them rubbish, that I may gain Christ and be found in him, not having a righteousness of my own that comes from the law, but that which is through faith in Christ—the righteousness that comes from God and is by faith. I want to know Christ and the power of his resurrection and the fellowship of sharing in his sufferings, becoming like him in his death, and so, somehow, to attain to the resurrection from the dead.” Philippians 3:7-11

Paul laid down even good dreams and gained Christ. Christ had the big picture in mind for Paul (and me!) and he gained Christ.

Do you want to gain Christ? There is life after dead dreams.

Making it practical (if this is you too!):

  • Talk to someone about your broken dreams and pray with them.
  • Seek God for who He is – not what He can do.
  • Grieve the loss of your dreams and expectations (but don’t stay there).
  • Ask for new dreams – His dreams for you (or redefined dreams)
  • Remember He sees all and knows all – Even Now.

Author: notunredeemed

Jesus follower, people lover, truth scribbler. Addicted to pain (growth). Passionate about relationships, identity and the transforming power of Christ.

9 thoughts on “When Dreams Die

  1. Again, this is wonderful. Thank you for the reminder. ❤

  2. You are living proof of life after dead dreams and so am I. At one point in my life I had lost all hope of a happy life. I was resigned to being in despair every day, but God pulled me out of the miry clay and set my feet upon a rock. There is a beautiful life after the death of what we had hoped for. God bless, this was a wonderful and helpful post.

  3. How abundantly He blesses with His dreams.

    • Amen! That He does – that is what makes it so beautiful! Is that His dreams aren’t just “ok” dreams – they are above what we can imagine! 🙂

  4. I am in the midst of a terrible situation -where false accusations abound, and the government “child-saver” system is tearing apart an innocent family. On May 1st, these awful people, who don’t really care about the children they say they are there to protect, will try to convince a judge that my husband and I are threats to our two youngest daughters, and will ask that he terminate our parental rights forever. I honestly do not think that if this happens, that I can go on living in a relationship with the Lord. I have almost walked away numerous times. Then I decide not to, but I am NOT seeing a deeper relationship with Him as being worth this pain and misery. We have been told repeatedly that God has something He is wanting to do with us, even HE Himself revealed something to me several years ago about what He has in store for us as a family, but this is eating at me in a way I have NEVER experienced before. I have been a Christian since I was very young, having been raised in the church, and both sides of my family have long and rich heritages in the Assemblies of God (both of my dad’s parents were ministers, and my uncle and one cousin are both ministers today) – so i have always KNOWN about God, and accepted Christ as savior as a very young child. But I have never had a true relationship with Him beyond that. This situation should NEVER have happened – it is the result of nosy people inserting themselves into our private family business, as well as certain individuals who have something to “prove”, and are ultimately cruel, and want to inflict punishment – though we have no idea why. We have successfully raised two children to adulthood, neither of whom believe that their dad could be guilty of the accusations against him. Our 12 year old maintains that he never did anything to her. Our 9-year-old’s words were twisted by a hateful bully of an investigator, and now she believes that her dad molested her. Once a statement is documented as being a “disclosure”, everyone involved in the case is legally allowed to ask leading questions (“didn’t you say it happened such and such a way?” or “didn’t you say it happened here?” etc). This in turn only creates a false memory. So now we are dealing with False Memory Syndrome, and a Guardian Ad Litem who is an outright liar. She has lied numerous times IN COURT to the judge – and no one, not even my lawyer, would refute it.

    I just don’t know how much more of this I can take. And if this goes badly, I don’t think I can handle the next 9 years of not having contact with my daughters. The anger that rises up in me when I think about all the aspects of this case is immense, and it wears me out. All I want is for this to be over with, and have my children and husband restored to me. I really don’t care about anything else that God may want to do with this situation, or with my life. I almost don’t even care about having a relationship with Him – not if He’s going to destroy good things in my life.

    • Oh, how I understand, Marci! My parents are in the middle of an investigation right now (on a foster daughter that they were planning to adopt) and there is nothing as painful and horrible as false accusations.

      For us, there is light beginning to shine through the cracks, but I well understand the dark and hopelessness.

      I would love to talk to you more. My email is natashametzler at gmail dot com. And I will be praying.

    • Marci,
      Thank you for your comment and sharing your story! My breaks for you right now. And longs for redemption for you! I will be praying. Natasha is a close friend and I see she responded to you. They are going through something very simliar – I hope you can find hope from her story!

      I also think the Lord knows how tired and frustrated you are. And He understands the pain – His own son was taken from him. The very fact that we doubt proves there is something there to doubt and get angry at. He wants to be your strength through this time. Keep holding on dear sister!

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