Tonight my heart is breaking for several friends whose dreams are dying. This blog is for them. In hearing about how the Lord is closing doors on their dreams – some of them good dreams – I began to think back to what God has shown me through some of the most intense times of dying dreams. The number one thing I want you to know is that there is life after your dreams. There is hope, and life abundant and to the full. Not just a life of existence.
For at the end of our dreams is the beginning of His. I am living proof of that and of God’s grace. Out of the death of one of my biggest dreams came this blog. It also birthed a passion in me to help people find their identity in Christ which led too the most fulfilling ministry I’m apart of. I have the honor of meeting with a large number of women and girls every week in a one on one discipleship and mentoring. I live for these meetings and they all came out of one of my dreams dying.
There is an old Selah song that says “it may not be fulfilled, it may not be restored, but when anything that is shattered and laid before the Lord, it will not be unredeemed.” The Lord has faithfully redeemed my dreams. Sometimes by fulfilling them in different ways, sometimes by changing and refining them, other times but simply giving me new ones – His dreams for me.
If God can do that for me, an ordinary, normal girl, He can and will do that for you if you give Him the shattered pieces. At the end of you is the beginning of Him. At the end of you is a crossroads. One road leads to bitterness and death, one road leads to a rebuilding and a hope. God doesn’t waste anything if we let Him work. So I beg you – ask Him for His dreams for you! Ask Him to redefine and remake your dead dreams. Like Ezekiel you stand with Him looking for the dry dead bones of your dreams and He says to you “ Son of man (or daughter!) do you believe these bones can live?” Ezekiel replies – “only you know Lord!” Only He knows! And they only way you will know is if you stick with Him to find out.
I remember one night laying on my bed weeping, not evening knowing if I could trust the Lord any more after He removed a good God given dream from my life and I begged Him to give me His dreams. And He did. That night was a turning point for me as He began to lead me on a path that I never imagined – but it was BETTER than I imagined.
When you can’t trust God with even your dead dreams, trust His character, when you can’t trust specifics. He is faithful – but the only way we can know He is faithful is to step out in faith. If you’ve lost the dream – then you have nothing more to loose. Don’t wait. Step out. Ask Him for His dreams for you. It’s not an easy process but you will rebuild and you will be whole again.
Can the Lord take away even a good dream? One we have already surrendered to Him? Yes. If we are surrendered to Him it isn’t ours. I’m currently learning this is the next level of surrender with the Lord. He even asks for the good things. The good dreams. Not because He is cruel, but because He loves us enough to refine them and purify them and us in the process. He is more concerned with who we are than what we do. And in His love will remove or delay a dream if it hinders us from Him. Sometimes though the death of a dream isn’t about us – it’s what God is working in the bigger picture.
Paul had a lot of dreams – a lot of good dreams and he laid them down for the sake of the cross. I’m sure he could have argued with God about where to serve Him best and how his life by everyone’s standards was right on tract, yet this is what Paul says to all of His accomplishments and dreams:
But whatever was to my profit I now consider loss for the sake of Christ. What is more, I consider everything a loss compared to the surpassing greatness of knowing Christ Jesus my Lord, for whose sake I have lost all things. I consider them rubbish, that I may gain Christ and be found in him, not having a righteousness of my own that comes from the law, but that which is through faith in Christ—the righteousness that comes from God and is by faith. I want to know Christ and the power of his resurrection and the fellowship of sharing in his sufferings, becoming like him in his death, and so, somehow, to attain to the resurrection from the dead.” Philippians 3:7-11
Paul laid down even good dreams and gained Christ. Christ had the big picture in mind for Paul (and me!) and he gained Christ.
Do you want to gain Christ? There is life after dead dreams.
Making it practical (if this is you too!):
- Talk to someone about your broken dreams and pray with them.
- Seek God for who He is – not what He can do.
- Grieve the loss of your dreams and expectations (but don’t stay there).
- Ask for new dreams – His dreams for you (or redefined dreams)
- Remember He sees all and knows all – Even Now.