Not Unredeemed

… living the beautiful tension between what is, and what will be …

Saying “No” to a Date or Relationship

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“I have known this guy for a few weeks and he says he is in love with me. But I don’t really want to be in a relationship right now. I have no idea what I am doing.  I just need some advice on how to turn him down gently.

I’ve hesitated to write on how to say no to a date or relationship for a long time. It’s one of those awkward topics to write on but one that everyone wants to read when they are facing the situation. As a single person, writing about how to say no is like shooting yourself in the foot – who wants to date a girl who writes about how to say no to a relationship? 🙂  I laugh at myself as I write this and thank the Lord for changing my heart and filling my insecurities. I am who I am by His grace and the rest doesn’t matter. Don’t ever let fear of what people will think stop you from ministering to others with the grace the Lord has given you

We serve an audience of One. What He thinks matters. I have often wondered at some of the experiences that I have had and shake my head till I remember that:

 “Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our tribulation, that we may be able to comfort those who are in any trouble, with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God.” 2 Cor 1:4-5

Now, saying “no” isn’t always “tribulation” or “trouble” for everyone, but as a people pleaser learning to say no was one of the most heart breaking/molding lessons I have learned over the years. And I wish that at the time I had had someone I could have asked or discussed it with more.

So when my editor over at YLCF asked me to reply to one of our readers questions and then turn it into a post, I jumped at the chance to encourage other women from the lessons I’ve learned on how to respect and love our brothers in Christ during the awkward and at times painful, situations where a “no” is needed.

I pray my answer encourages you as well as Laura. For the answer please continue reading by clicking here.

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Author: notunredeemed

Jesus follower, people lover, truth scribbler. Addicted to pain (growth). Passionate about relationships, identity and the transforming power of Christ.


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