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3 Books on Life that Every Single Should Read

“You will be the same person in five years as you are today except for the people you meet and the books you read”. – Charlie Jones

What a true statement! In our singleness we have been given the gift of flexibility and time. One of the ways I have been most intentional about living fully alive now is through the books I choose to read. Books and the truths we clean from them are a bit like bricks we can use to build the framework of our character. Through several short posts spread out through the remainder of this 31 Days Series, I’m going to try to share with you several of the books that have impacted my life the most. I could tell you why I like each of these books, but really, all my mini reviews will come out sounding mostly the same : They changed my life! So I’ve included a few quotes and ideas so you can taste them for yourself.

 Warning: If you want to live comfortably, don’t read these books. They are not for the faint of heart. In their pages I have wept more tears of repentance, change, and growth. But also have I found freedom, strength, and grace.

1. The Bait of Satan: Living Free From Offense – John Bevere

If forgiveness is a debt paid, than offense is a debt owed. What would it look like to Be led by the Spirit – not reaction?

“For many as are led by the Spirit of God, these are the sons of God.’ – Notice it does not say, “For as many as react to a difficult situations, these are the Sons of God”- Bevere

This spring I wrote a full review on this book. Check it out here.

2. Loneliness – Elizabeth Elliot

Elizabeth Elliot was single for five years while loving a man she did not know if she could ever marry. Over the years she was married three times loosing her first husband as martyr and the second to cancer. She knows a few things about loneliness can be found in every stage of life. You see loneliness isn’t something that just singles struggle with, singleness is just the best opportunity we have to learn how to handle it.

“… this acceptance  I speak of is not passivism, quietism, fatalism, or resignation. It is not capitulation to evil, or a refusal to do what can and ought to be done to change things. It is a distilled act of faith, a laying one’s will alongside God’s, a putting of oneself at one with His kingdom and His will… Acceptance is abandonment [of self], the great risk of great lovers, when an awesome power is given over – the power to hurt…. To love means to open ourselves up to suffering.” Elisabeth Elliot – Loneliness

 3. Keep Your Love On – Danny Silk

This book is about choice. About relationships. And single friends, ‘relationships’ is not a word for romantic couples, it’s for us too. Any person you see on a regular basis you have a relationship with. Therefore, this book is for you!

“I choose you.” This is the foundation of true, lasting relationships. It is the foundation for God’s relationship with you. As Jesus declared to His disciples, “You did not choose Me, but I chose you…” 1 Jesus chose you in the most difficult of circumstances. He chose you while you were in sin, while you were His enemy. His side of the relationship with you does not depend upon your choice, but entirely upon His choice. The question is whether or not you will learn to build your relationships with Him and others upon the foundation of your choice.” – Danny Silk, Keep Your Love On

If you want to throw out this book after the first few chapters (I get it, and I almost did) But– keep reading! This book was so

Danny Silk

Danny Silk

foreign to the way I was used to doing relationships that it rankled me to no end. I was only rankled though because I was a powerless person. What’s a powerful/powerless person? Well guess you had better read to find out!

Live intentional and fully alive today – pick up some books and start building! What have been some of the most character building books for you? I’m always reading – Comment below? I would love to hear your suggestions.

Today's the Day: Being Single and Fully Alive “3 Books on Life, Every Single Should Read” is a part of the “Today’s The Day: Being Single and Fully Alive” a 31 Days Series. To read more from this series please click here.

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Pain Redeemed (review and give-a-way) 31 Days of Truth {Day 6}

“Life is pain your Highness, and anyone telling you differently is selling you something”, while you might have differing views on whether or not you actually like Princess Bride, Wesley does have a point. Life has a lot of pain in it. It will look differently for all of us. Proverbs 14:10 says

Each heart knows its own bitterness,
and no one else can share its joy.

We each have our own pain, and we don’t always understand each other’s pain  – but what binds us together is that we both experience pain. In her book “Pain Redeemed” Natasha writes about her struggle with infertility. But much, much more, then infertility Natasha writes to other hearts experiencing pain of any kind and points them back to the One who redeems. This book isn’t about what we would think of as “happy endings”, but about redemption in the journey, in the here and now. Not just in the “some day”.

“If I can’t figure out how to stand up to the enemy’s attacks now, today – then changing my circumstances won’t change my sorrow.

God allows fog.

He allows it because He wants to build our faith. He is working and changing – whether we can see in the moment or not. He bled and died and rose so we could be free. It’s not enough to just say, “Okay, God, I believe in you. Save me” Doing that might break the chains of the enemy, but we still have to walk out of the dungeon. We have to live like we’re saved.”

Pain Redeemed is about learning to live like we are saved – learning to be victorious in the midst of all levels of pain and heart ache.

No matter your age or status this book will speak to you! My pain is not infertility – but truth is still truth, and this book was a big blessing to me! If you hurt, or if someone close to you hurts, read this book. It’s a great description of the ups and downs of the journey – but most of all His faithfulness! You can buy Pain Redeemed from Natasha (or Amazon) as an eBook for $4.99. (It’s the best $4.99 you can spend. Trust me! It’s way worth skipping that extra cup of coffee for.)

I enjoyed the eBook so much that I’d love to give a way a copy to one of you! The give a way will end on Tuesday evening (10/9/12), so enter today! (click through the links below, or visit the give-a-way page via Not Unredeemed on Face book to enter).

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  Tidbit of Truth today ? We are never alone in pain. And that pain? It’s meant to be redeemed. <— Tweet this

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Radical Together

A sequel to Radical, David Platt’s Radical Together hit another home run. Through out Radical Together, Platt expounds on how to live the radical concepts he talked about in his first book. Contrary to popular opinion, the church doesn’t need to be either evangelistic in nature or discipleship focused, it doesn’t need to be missions/outreach based or home focused. David makes a compelling case that we don’t need to be either/or, but both/and in our focus, both as individuals and the body of Christ.

This is the best book I’ve read so far on how to marry both concepts – they are joined through taking a hard look at the gospel and following Christ’s command to ‘go and make disciples of all nations’.  Discipleship happens through intentional relationships, which builds community and spreads (evangelism – together). The idea of discipleship is a radical concept for American churches filled with programs – hence we get Radical Together. Continue reading